Right now, everything is magnified. So the question is, how do we dissolve polarization, stop fighting and start getting along again?
If you’ve followed me for any length of time, you know how much I love and practice Self-Reg. It’s changed my life and subsequently my children’s lives. Self-reg changed my entire trajectory when dealing with my child who struggles with anxiety.
Dr. Stuart Shanker is the Founder and CEO of the MEHRIT Centre. His knowledge and teachings of Self-Reg are amazing.
Anything you had going on in your life before COVID-19 has become magnified. It’s like people have lost their tolerance to disagreements and differences of opinions. Feeling the need to be right and prove it, personal attacks and all.
Through Self-Reg, there’s a focus on the 5 steps ; reframe, recognize, reduce, reflect and restore.
If you’re around someone who is triggered or stressed, it’s a natural human response to pick up on and adapt that emotional response. As a result there’s more stress, triggered responses and disregulation.
In my own life, I often follow the 5 second rule, meaning I count to 5 before responding and reacting to a triggering situation. Self awareness can be difficult, but it’s definitely worth practicing. When you become more aware of yourself, you become better equipped to help others.
It is scientifically proven that you cannot think and feel at the same time.
Right now, most of our interactions are happening through technology – texting, emails etc. It’s easy to misinterpret the tone and intention of a message.
So, how do we get along again? How do we dissolve this polarization?
We need to see people as human beings, to connect and communicate. When we don’t see a human, we aren’t connected and we don’t have space for understanding and compassion.
We need to stop talking and start listening.
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If you’re struggling with your mental health, check this out – How Self-Reg Can Help Your Mental Health.